时常听到一些孩子的母亲将孩子的某种心理缺陷归因于随其父亲和爷爷,并称之为“随根儿”。相反,孩子的父亲则将孩子的另一些心理缺陷归因于随其母亲。为此,不仅父母之间常会闹纠纷,而且有的父母失去了对孩子进行教育以弥补缺陷的信心。其实,这种随意将孩子的某方面不足说成是随父亲或随母亲是完全错误的,也是不负责 Mothers who often hear some children attributed some child’s psychological defect to their father and grandfather and called them “with the root”. Instead, the child’s father attributes another child’s psychological defects to his mother. For this reason, not only is there frequent disputes between parents, but also some parents have lost their confidence in educating their children to make up for the deficiencies. In fact, it is entirely wrong and unsupportable to say that some aspects of the child’s lack of success are with their father or with their mother