最近,有个9岁男孩的家长找我做咨询,这个孩子成绩在班里垫底,如果没有妈妈贴身监督就不肯做作业,妈妈几乎每天晚上都会对他发火。母子之间,彼此看对方都是一脸的乌云,家里的气氛很是压抑。我了解了详细的情况,感觉妈妈力量有余,温柔不足。因此,我给了她两个方向性的建议:第一,就事论事,不指责;第二,减少催促,及时肯定。这两个建议都很普通,关键在于执行的是否到位。今天是咨询的第四天,妈妈说这几天家里的气氛 Recently, a 9-year-old boy’s parents came to see me for advice. The child’s accomplishments were in the bottom of the class. He refused to do his homework without her own supervision, and her mother would be angry with him almost every night. Between mother and child, each other to see each other is a look of dark clouds, the atmosphere at home is very depressed. I understand the details of the situation, I feel more than mother, gentle enough. Therefore, I gave her two directional suggestions: first, to discuss matters and not to blame; and second, to reduce reminders and confirm in time. Both suggestions are common, the key lies in the implementation is in place. Today is the fourth day of consultation, my mother said the atmosphere of these days