苏东坡曾有诗云：“不识庐山真面目，只缘身在此山中。”照此意推论，一个人是很难看到自己的缺点与不足的。笔者反其意而论之，入为什么不能主动暴露自己的“庐山真面目”，而让别人了解一下真实的“我”呢？最近，笔者读过一位日本学者写的交际心理学方面的书，颇受启发。书 Su Dongpo had a poem: “I do not know the true face of Mount Lu, only in this mountain.” According to this corollary, a person is hard to see their shortcomings and deficiencies. On the other hand, I would like to explain why I can not take the initiative to expose my “true colors”, let others know the true “me”? Recently, I read a book written by Japanese scholars on communicative psychology, very inspired. book