《孔子家语》记载:楚恭王好打猎,一日打猎归来,发现心爱的宝雕弓遗失了,非常懊恼。随从安慰他:“大王还记得大约在何时何地遗失的吗?我们替你找回来。”楚恭王想了想说:“算了,楚王遗失一张宝雕弓,大不了还是楚人捡去了,何必寻找呢?”事后,人人称赞楚恭王“宽宏大量”。孔子听到此事,却感叹道:“度量还不够宽宏啊!如果说‘人遗失了弓,人拾得了弓’,多好!添一个‘楚’字,多么小气。”楚恭王的话体现的是一种“小我”境界,而孔子的话体现的则是一种“大我”境界。我们身边有一类教育者,他们只关注自己任教班级的学生,对其 “Confucius Jiayu” records: Chu Gong Wang good hunting, hunting back on the 1st, found the beloved treasure carved bow lost, very upset. Follow suit to comfort him: “King remember when about where lost it? We find it for you. ” Chu Prince Gong wanted to say: “Well, Chu lost a treasure bow, Big deal, or pick up the Chu people, why look for? ”“ Afterwards, everyone praised Chu Gong Wang ”generous “. Confucius heard the matter, but exclaimed: ”measure is not liberal enough ah! If people lose the bow, the people picked up the bow, how good! Tim a ’Chu’ word, how stingy. ’S words reflect a “self ” realm, while the words of Confucius embody a “big self ” realm. There is a class of educators around us who focus only on the students they teach