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我们接受儿童的情感,就必须让儿童将自己的情感以某种方式表达出来。否则儿童压抑在心里的情感终究有一天会以意料不到的方式暴露出来。情感必须表达,而且最好就在它发生的当时表达出来。当儿童说“我害怕”时,他因恐惧而产生的痛苦就减轻了。有的儿童对吓唬他的成人说“我不喜欢你”,而有的儿童却会一声不响,直到吓唬他的成人想和他亲近时才突然大哭起来。两者相比,前者能较好地控制自己的情感。发怒的儿童需要在生气的当时就做点什么,发泄怒气。如果压抑下去,这股怒气以后可能会以破坏性更大的方式发泄出来,到那时,怒气就更大,也就越发难以控制。
When we accept children’s emotions, we must let children express their emotions in some way. Otherwise, the emotional depression in children will eventually be revealed in unexpected ways. Emotions must be expressed, and best expressed at the time it occurs. When the child said “I was scared,” the pain of his fears eased. Some children say “I do not like you” to scare his adult, while others are silent, until they cry suddenly when scaring his adult wants to be close to him. Compared with the former, the former can better control their emotions. Angry children need to do something at the time angry, vent anger. If repressed, the anger may later be released in a more devastating way, and by that time the anger will be greater and more unmanageable.