当你的那位品学兼优的同学看起来只用了你做题的三分之二的时间就把数学题全部答对,却还激动地宣布他又找到解题新方法的时候,你还在绞尽脑汁,并机械地计算,而那些题仍旧无从下手。这时,你可能恨他,更恨自己。听起来很熟悉吗?这就是每当我们陷入比较的陷阱时,发生在我们身上的事。和别人作比较,你不可避免地会处于以下两个位置中的一个:处于优势,“可怜的东西,我比他们强多了”;处于劣势,“我好 When your good-natured student seems to answer all the math problems with only two-thirds of the time you did, but still excited to announce that he has found a new way to solve the problem, you also Are brains, and calculated mechanically, and those questions still can not start. At this moment, you may hate him and hate yourself more. Sound familiar? This is what happens to us whenever we fall into the trap of comparison. Compared with others, you will inevitably be in one of two positions: being at a premium, ”poor things, I’m a lot stronger than them;“ at a disadvantage, ”I’m fine