竞赛没出好成绩、没升入重点学校、高考落榜……当孩子遭遇失败时,家长不要对孩子讲:“看把事情都弄糟了,你怎么搞的?”“你都忘了应该怎么做了,是猪脑子?”“早知如此,不如当初不要你!”“你根本就不是学习的料!”如果孩子经常处于这些话的反复暗示之中,往往会接受错误判断,从而将这些作为自我评价的一个部分。长此下去,必定形成怯懦、自卑、害怕挑战的心理,认为自己什么都不行。当孩子对自己评价过低时,就会失去战胜困难的勇气和动力。这样,真正的失败会随之而来。父母应该鼓励孩子正确面对失败,帮助孩子具体分析失败的原因,并 Competition did not make good grades, did not enter the key schools, college entrance exams ... ... When the child fails, the parents do not tell their children: “See things are messy, how do you do? ” “You forget What should be done, is the pig brain? ”“ Had known that, as the original do not want you! ”“ You are simply not learning material! ”If the child often in these words repeatedly hinted, often Will accept the wrong judgment, thus these as a part of self-evaluation. If things go on like this, they must form a cowardly, inferiority complex that is afraid of challenges and think they can not do anything. When children evaluate themselves too low, they lose the courage and motivation to overcome the difficulties. In this way, the real failure will follow. Parents should encourage their children to face failure correctly and help children to analyze the reasons for failure specifically