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当你用心为孩子抚摩的时候,你的心,也变得柔软了。最佳的身体状态是“柔软”当孩子受到惊吓、感到恐惧或者被批评时,就会下意识地处在一种“紧绷”的状态——整个身体都绷得紧紧的,肌肉变得僵硬,眼睛会瞪得很大,抿着嘴唇,紧握拳头……与此同时,孩子的心灵也会处于紧张的防御状态,不再具备开放性(动物有一种装死或被称为冻结的状态,人在面对极度恐惧等情绪时,也会如此,即把自己冻住,以完全放弃应对来应对)。长此以往,肌肉、关节、韧带等变得僵硬,甚至出现各种各样的疼痛和疾病。
Your heart softens as you caress your child. The best physical condition is “softness ” When the child is scared, feared or criticized, he or she is subconsciously in a “tight” state - the whole body is stretched tight, The muscles become stiff, their eyes wide open, their lips pressed, their fists clenched ... At the same time, the child’s mind is also in a state of defensive tension that no longer has openness (the animal has a dead or called To be frozen, people face the extreme fear and other emotions, it will be so, that is, to freeze themselves to completely give up the response to deal with). Over time, muscles, joints, ligaments, etc. become stiff and even have various pains and illnesses.