归属是儿童的基本需要。儿童归属于一定的群体,这个群体又是他们乐意生活在其中的群体,他们就有了安全感和愉悦感。但是,现实生活中的群体往往并不能满足他们归属的需要。特别是由成人为他们安排的群体更是如此。我们经常看到,有些家长要求孩于和邻里的伙伴一块学习,而孩子就是不愿意,却去另择伙伴;有的勉强同意家长的安排,但也是“身在曹营心在汉”。有些儿 Attribution is the basic needs of children. Children belong to a group that is the group they are willing to live in, and they have a sense of security and pleasure. However, real-life groups often do not meet the needs of their belonging. This is particularly the case with groups arranged for them, in particular by adults. We often see that some parents ask their children to study with their neighbors ’partners while their children are unwilling to go to alternative partners. Some reluctantly agree with parents’ arrangements, but they are also " . Some children