不得不说,除非极端情况,多数婆媳关系其实并不像想象中那么难处。作为儿媳,很多人可能不知道,自己会有意无意将婆婆这个角色而不是婆婆这个具体的人,作为自己负面、恶意、阴影、非理性信念的投射对象和载体。当然,婆婆也可能会这样。因为婆媳关系先天有一些“竞争”的意味在其中,又是毫无血缘关系和情感基础的陌生人,可偏偏常在一起或者碰面。所以我们常常会看 I have to say that most extreme mother-and daughter-in-law relationships are not as difficult as you think, except in extreme situations. As a daughter-in-law, many people may not know that they will consciously or unconsciously regard the role of mother-in-law rather than the concrete mother-in-law as the object and carrier of their own negative, malicious, shadowy and irrational beliefs. Of course, my mother-in-law may do the same. Because the relationship between mother-in-law has some innate “competition” in which strangers who are unrelated and emotionally based can often stay together or meet. So we often see