有位读者写信给我说,他是个直心肠的人,有话肚子里存不住,非得说出来才感到痛快,憋在心里十分难受。可是,这样就得罪了一些人。他发现,有的同事明明有意见,当面不说,背后说,结果这样的人际关系却比他好,这位读者觉得自己吃亏了,他来信问我该怎么办好? One of the readers wrote to me that he was a straight-hearted man who could not keep his stomach if he had to say it. He had to say that he felt happy and uncomfortable holding back his heart. However, this offended some people. He found that some colleagues clearly expressed their opinions, did not say the other way around, and said that the result was that such interpersonal relations were better than him. The reader felt that he had suffered a loss. He wrote to ask me what should I do?