所谓“反比”,即家长在教育子女时以他们同龄人中的佼佼者为例与之比较达到激发孩子上进的目的。应该说,适量地运用反比亦不是不可。但如果用得过量,就很可能产生副作用。因为事实上“过量”是普遍存在的,所以应引起警觉。有些家长在传媒上看到同龄孩子的优秀事迹,特别是介绍他们丰富的知识和杰出的才华时,往往会对自己的孩子说:“你看,他是你的同龄人,可他已经这么好了,而你呢,找着你连他的一半都没有。”或者这样说:“你瞧,人家的条件那么差,可学习这样好,你呢.正好相反,条件不知道要比他好多少,可学习却一团糟,不知道你在干什么?“话语中,充满着埋怨和责备。应该说“反比”的出发点是好的,目的是让孩子向榜样学习、看齐,但通常效果却不理想。因为这一“比”往往使孩子失去信心,进而产生逆反心理,“像他这样的有几 The so-called “inverse ratio”, that is, parents in the education of their children with their peers in the best example of comparison with them to achieve the purpose of motivating children. It should be said that the appropriate use of inverse ratio is not essential. However, if used in excess, it is likely to have side effects. Because in fact “excess” is ubiquitous, caution should be raised. Some parents who see the good deeds of their peers in the media, especially their rich knowledge and outstanding talents, often say to their children: “You see, he is your peer, but he’s been so good And you, you find it, not even half of him. ”Or say:“ You see, people’s conditions are so poor, you can learn so well, you .On the contrary, the conditions do not know how much better than him , Can learn but a mess, do not know what are you doing? ”Discourse, full of blame and blame. It should be said that the “inverse” starting point is good, the purpose is to let the children learn from example, par, but usually the result is not satisfactory. Because this “than” often make the child lose confidence, and then produce rebellious psychology, "like him, how many