前段时间,复旦出了件八卦事件:某位老师的妻子在网上发帖,控诉丈夫婚内出轨,苛待老婆孩子,身为副教授的丈夫则以13页的“论文”回击,战况激烈。事后回想,真是挺遗憾的:—场撕扯,只换得一地鸡毛,当事人都不体面,旁观者大骂渣男,大骂小三,可原配也没有得到多少同情。体面,不是做给别人看的,而是留给自己的:女方应该尽可能地搜集对方的过错,在法律上争取更多的经济利益才是最好的选择,而不是两败俱伤,同归于尽。对于那位年方三十、经过多年学术训练的高知女性来说,在对丈夫已经无比厌恶的情况下,实在不必拖着不愿离婚,把自己 Some time ago, Fudan out a piece of gossip: a teacher’s wife posting online, complained that her husband derailed within the marriage, demanding his wife and children, as an associate professor’s husband was 13 pages of “papers” back, fierce fighting. Afterwards recalled, really regrettable: - field tear, only get a feather, the parties are not decent, onlookers cursed dregs, cursed junior, but the original wife did not get much sympathy. Decent, not for others to see, but left to myself: the woman should try to collect each other’s fault, the legal fight for more economic benefits is the best choice, rather than lose-lose, go all out. For the 30-year-old Kaohsiung woman, who has undergone many years of academic training, she has no need to drag her on to divorce her own husband.