上小学时,孩子放学回家总要绘声绘色地把学校里有趣的事向父母汇报,可一上初中,便不再主动与父母说话。孩子进入初中,青春期悄然来临,身高、体重发展很快,柔韧性增强,力量增加,给孩子自己以“成人感”在心理变化上,由于他的独立性增强,故尽量避免对大人的依赖。渴求独立,不希望父母对自己过多的干涉,因而与父母的话越来越少。孩子此时开始重视与同性、异性同学之间的友谊,故可以与朋友尽诉衷肠,尽情欢乐,而不愿再对父母说心里话和表达亲密的感情。所以,对父母“疏远”是孩子身心发展的必然,是孩子的独立性表现。父母应尊重孩子在家中的权利,有意地把孩子看成 When I was in primary school, the children always wanted to report their parents interesting lessons at school after returning home from school. When they were in junior high school, they would no longer take the initiative to speak with their parents. Children into junior high school, adolescence quietly coming, height, weight developed rapidly, increased flexibility, increased strength, to the children themselves “sense of adult” in the psychological changes, because of his independence, so try to avoid dependence on adults. Desire for independence, do not want parents to interfere too much with their own, so less and less words with their parents. At this time, children begin to attach importance to friendship with same-sex and opposite-sex students, so they can show their heartfelt joy and enjoy themselves with friends instead of expressing their feelings and feelings to their parents. Therefore, the “alienation” of parents is the inevitable development of children’s physical and mental development, and is the manifestation of children’s independence. Parents should respect children’s rights at home and intentionally regard children as