许多家长都想通过与孩子交谈增加感情,并达到教育的目的。可有些家长总感到效果不佳,其主要原因是交谈的方式不正确。错误的交谈方式可分为两种,一是训斥式。家长居高临下,只会指责孩子这儿不好那儿也不是,不耐烦听孩子谈他的想法。较小的孩子懂事不多,家长如不把道理说明白,对这种方式的交谈孩子倍感屈辱和压抑,其结果是亲子间的距离越来越大。二是溺爱式。看上去好像与“训斥式”相反,家长用“甜蜜”的口吻对待孩子,其特点是“哄”。但从本质上看与训斥式一样,都是没有深入孩子 Many parents want to increase their feelings by talking to their children and for educational purposes. Some parents can always feel the effect is not good, the main reason is the way the conversation is not correct. Wrong conversation can be divided into two kinds, one is reprimand. Parents commanding condescension, will only blame the child here is not good there is not, impatient to listen to children talk about his ideas. Smaller children do not have much to know about things. If parents do not understand the truth, they feel humiliating and repressed when they talk about this way. As a result, the distance between parents and children is getting bigger and bigger. Second, spoiled love. It looks as if, contrary to “reprimand,” parents treat their children with a “sweet” tone, characterized by “coaxing.” But in essence, like reprimand, there is no in-depth child