在传统家庭教育中,孩子听父母的话是理所当然的,父母往往不太尊重孩子的意见,常是父母决定了包括填报高考志愿、找工作和选媳妇等一切孩子的人生大事。扼杀了孩子的个性,使孩子成为没有主见的人。随着社会的不断进步,现在的孩子变得越来越有自己的看法了,不再对父母的意见惟命是从了。那么,当父母的决定和孩子意见相左时做父母的该怎么办呢? In traditional family education, it is natural for children to listen to their parents. Parents often do not respect their children’s opinions. Often, parents decide life events including reporting on the college entrance examination volunteer, finding a job and choosing a daughter-in-law. Strangle the child’s personality and make the child a defaulter. With the continuous progress of the society, the children nowadays have become more and more independent of their own opinions, and no longer obey their parents’ opinions. So, what should parents do when their parents’ decisions are contrary to their children’s opinions?