从小到大,我们总是生活在“别人家孩子”的阴影之下,久而久之,自己也难免产生“我不如别人”的念头。其实,与人比较是人之本性,是“社会人”每天都在显意识或者潜意识里做的事情。除了会使用工具,这也是人类有别于动物的一个特点。比较并不是坏事,因为它能够让你知道自己在集体里的定位,从而有意识地提升自己。当然,比较也会带来负面影响,像羡慕、嫉妒这样的情绪,往往都是伴随 From small to large, we always live under the shadow of “other people’s children.” Over time, they inevitably produce “I am inferior to others”. In fact, compared with people is human nature, is “social people ” every day in the conscious or subconscious things to do. In addition to using tools, this is also a distinguishing feature of human beings from animals. Comparing is not a bad thing, because it lets you know where you are in a group and therefore consciously enhances yourself. Of course, comparisons also have a negative effect. Emotions such as envy and jealousy are often accompanied by