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日常生活中,一些家长经常数落孩子的缺点和短处,当众批评、讽刺、挖苦,把孩子当做出气筒,通过打骂孩子发泄怨气,严重挫伤了孩子的自尊心,使孩子形成谨小慎微的消极性格。还有些家长只认可表扬、奖励的正面激励作用,不承认批评的积极作用,不问对象、不看时机、不顾影响地一味赏识鼓励,助长了孩子不良行为和性格的发展。其实表扬和批评就像盐和酱油,不同的菜式,比例要有所不同。真正的“大厨”知道怎么调配盐和酱油的比例,所以他们烧出来的菜才诱人,那么我们家长究竟该怎么做才能恰如其分地平衡表扬和批评呢?
In daily life, some parents often count on the shortcomings and shortcomings of their children, criticizing, sarcasm and sarcastic criticism. Using their children as a punching bag and venting their grievances by scolding their children seriously dampen their self-esteem and make their children form cautious and negative personalities. Some parents only recognize the positive encouragement of recognition and reward, do not recognize the positive role of criticism, do not ask the object, do not look at the opportunity, regardless of the impact blindly appreciate encouragement, contributed to the child’s bad behavior and character development. In fact, praise and criticism like salt and soy sauce, different dishes, the proportion to be different. The real chef knows how to mix salt and soy sauce, so the food they burn out is tempting, so what exactly can parents do to properly balance their praise and criticism?