“如果你是一位父亲或母亲,我邀请你试着用三个形容词描绘自己的孩子,你会用什么词呢?”每次做家长辅导时,我都会先问这个问题。有一位妈妈这样描述她5岁的儿子:“内向,谨慎,敏感。我一直都觉得我儿子像个女孩子。”然后她开始细数各种细节,比如儿子特别喜欢女孩子的爱好,只要妈妈买了新的指甲油,他就一定要拿来涂,今天不给,明天接着问,明天不给,后天接着问,锲而不舍。后来这位妈妈又开始担心儿子长大后会不会不够爷们 “If you are a father or mother, I invite you to try and describe your child in three adjectives. What words do you use?” “Every time I do a parent counseling, I ask this question first. One mom describes her 5-year-old son as ”introverted, cautious and sensitive, and I always think of my son as a girl." Then she began to count the details, such as the son’s special love for girls, As long as the mother bought a new nail polish, he must be used to paint, do not give today, then ask tomorrow, tomorrow do not give, the day after tomorrow and asked, perseverance. Later, the mother began to worry about her son will grow up not enough man