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孩子犯了错误,应该惩罚吗?“当然应该惩罚,惩罚可以让他记住教训。”有些家长如是说。“最好不要惩罚,因为我惩罚过孩子很多次,发现效果都不好,孩子并没有受到触动。”有些家长这样回答。其实,争论的焦点不在于该不该惩罚,关键是惩罚有没有效果。而惩罚有没有效果,又要因人而异。同样是罚站,有的孩子能反省错误,有的孩子则无动于衷。这当然有多种原因。我们先假设,其中原因之一,是儿童对惩罚的态度,惩罚效果与儿童对惩罚的态度相关。再来通过调查、实验验证。国外心理学家运用谈话法,调查了6～12岁的儿童。他们提出了这一类问题:当比利在房里玩时,母亲叫他出去拿一些面包来,大伙一起吃饭。比利说他“一会儿”就去拿。吃饭的时间到了,他还没有去。比利的父亲想到三种对他惩罚的方法:(1)禁止比利第二天上街,因为比利很喜欢上街玩;(2)下次当比利需要帮助时,不给他帮助,因为比利在母亲请他帮
Should a child make a mistake and punish? “Of course it should be punished, and punishment should allow him to remember the lesson.” Some parents said so. “It is best not to punish, because I punished children many times and found that the effect is not good, the children are not touched. ” Some parents replied. In fact, the focus of the argument is not that it should not be punished, the key is the punishment has no effect. And punishment has no effect, but also vary from person to person. The same station, some children can reflect errors, some children are indifferent. Of course, there are many reasons for this. We first assume that one of the reasons is the child’s attitude towards punishment. The effect of punishment is related to children’s attitude towards punishment. Again through the investigation, experimental verification. Foreign psychologists use the method of conversation, investigated children aged 6 to 12 years. They posed this type of problem: When Billy was in the house, his mother told him to go out and get some bread to eat with everyone. Billy said he would “get it for a while.” Time to eat, he has not yet gone. Billy’s father thought of three ways of punishing him: (1) Billy was not allowed to go to the streets the next day because Billy loved to play in the streets; (2) next time Billy needed help, he was not helped Because Billy asked his mother for help