在尚无情感经历之时,曾有人问过陈寅恪先生的爱情观,先生这样答:第一,情之最上者,世无其人,悬空设想,而甘为之死,如《牡丹亭》之杜丽娘是也;第二,与其人交识有素,而未尝共衾枕者次之,如宝、黛是也;第三,曾一度枕席而永久纪念不忘,如司棋与潘又安;第四,又次之,则为夫妇终身而无外遇者;第五,最下者,随处接合,惟欲是图,而无所 In the absence of emotional experience, someone once asked Mr. Chen Yinkue’s love concept, the man said in this way: First, the feelings of the highest, no one else, dreamed of, and willing to die, such as “The Peony Pavilion” Du Li Niang is also; secondly, to have a thorough understanding of the person, without compromise, such as Po, Dai is also; thirdly, once a pillow and permanent memorable, such as Chess and Pan An; fourth , And secondly, the couple life without an event; fifth, the most people, everywhere bonding, but for the map, and nothing