我的女儿罗天在快满三岁的时候,为我要她卷裤腿一事,闹了一场风波。一天傍晚,刚拖了地板,地上还是湿漉漉的。罗天要进卫生间洗手,我叫她卷了裤腿进去,她不肯,径直向里走。我一见,恼了,把她抱出来,她“哇”的一声哭起来。我告诉她:“只要裤腿卷起来,就可以去洗手了。”可她哭得更厉害了。我是不是委屈了孩子?我的要求恰不恰当?我反复思考,觉得问题不在这里。小孩子事不遂意就耍态度,这不足为奇,但现在重申了要求,告诉她应该怎么做她偏不做,这里就有个教育的问题了。小孩子对于大人来说,自然属于弱者,但弱者也有与强者抗衡甚至战胜强者的方法,如用哭来打动大人的怜悯之心。在这时大人若因心软而动摇、退让,那就等于向孩子表明:大人的话可以不听,而错误的作法可以坚持。长此以往,孩子以后将会反复使用哭这个武器,使大人对他的正确的教育化为乌有,使不良的习惯发展。于是,我语气坚决地说:“好哭的孩子就请她到门外去。”她开始一怔,继而哭得更凶。我心一横,把她抱到门外,并将门关上。开始,她的哭声很高,还不停地喊妈妈。说老实话,对一个不到三岁的孩子这样处置,我的心也怪不好受,我几次都想打开门,抱她进来,把她揽在怀里,亲亲她满是泪痕的脸,抚抚她散乱的头发。但理智告诉我,千万不要动 When my daughter, Luo Tian, ​​was almost three years old, I had trouble with the roll-off of my legs. One evening, just drag the floor, the ground is still wet. Luo days to wash their hands in the bathroom, I called her rolled legs into it, she refused, go straight inside. I saw, annoyed, hugged her, she “wow” cry soon. I told her: “As long as the legs rolled up, you can go to wash your hands.” But she cried even worse. I was not wronged children? My request is not appropriate? I think repeatedly, think the problem is not here. It is not surprising that children behave inappropriately, but now it is an educational issue to reiterate the demand and tell her what she should do. For adults, children naturally belong to the weak, but the weak also have the ability to contend with or defeat the strong, such as using crying to impress the compassion of adults. At this moment, if adults are shaken and retreated because of their soft heart, they mean to show their children that if adults do not listen, wrong practices can persist. In the long run, the child will later repeatedly cry to use this weapon, so as to make the adult turn his right education into a norm and to make bad habits develop. So, I said firmly tone: “crying children would ask her to go outside.” She started Yi Zheng, and then cry even more fierce. My heart is horizontal, hold her outside the door, and close the door. The beginning, her crying is high, but also kept calling her mother. To be honest, my heart did not feel good when it was done with a child under three years old. On several occasions I wanted to open the door, hold her in and hold her in my arms, kissing her face full of tears Caresses her scattered hair. But reason tells me, do not move