无论是我们身边,还是媒体上,都能看到越来越多的中学生、大学生的抑郁、叛逆、离家出走、自残、自杀或伤人、杀人事件。导致这种现象的原因,固然有社会大环境和教育体制的因素,但很大程度上,正是我们这些父母,在孩子很小的时候就常忽视他们的感受和需求,不关注人,而只关注表现,以“胡萝卜加大棒” Whether we are around us or in the media, more and more middle school students and college students can find depression, rebellion, running away from home, self-mutilation, suicide or wounding or killing people. Although the causes of this phenomenon are, of course, factors of social environment and education system, to a large extent it is precisely for these parents that we often neglect their feelings and needs when they are young and do not care about people Only concerned about performance, with “carrot and stick ”