一段关系破裂,会让人产生“丧失”的体验。处理不好这一体验,将会影响到未来的情感生活。小丽在大学时曾有一个男友,恋爱了三年多。毕业后,两人两地分居。男友在工作几个月后和一位女同事在一起,和小丽提出了分手。这几年来,小丽一直无法走出这个阴影,也无法投入到新的感情中。喜欢小丽的男孩不少,但小丽经常会拿他们和以前的男友做比较,有时甚至会对他们提出一些极 A broken relationship will give people a “lost” experience. Poor handling of this experience will affect the future of emotional life. Mary had a boyfriend in college, fell in love for more than three years. After graduation, the two separated. A few months after working with her boyfriend and a female colleague, and Mary proposed a break up. In recent years, Mary has been unable to get out of this shadow, can not invest into new feelings. Many like Mary’s boy, but Mary will often compare them with the previous boyfriend, and sometimes even put some of them