前来咨询的一对中年夫妇告诉我:结婚头几年,他们每周做爱四五次,15年后的今天,两个月都难得有一次。女士说:“我们的关系在很多方面还是不错的,只是他似乎丧失性欲了。”当她试图和丈夫讨论性生活时,她的丈夫变得窘迫不堪。他的回避和她受到的伤害严重影响了他们的关系。 而在寻求咨询的夫妇中最常见的抱怨之一是,性生活不和谐或称“性期望差异”——一个令数以百万计男女懊恼的话题。缺乏性兴趣的不一定意味着婚姻的终结。但是,“期望差异”是一种迹象,提醒夫妇们:你们的关系已变得淡漠,是该调整的时候了。下面 A couple of middle-aged couples who came to consult me ​​told me: In the first few years of marriage, they make love four or five times a week. After 15 years, they are rare in two months. “My relationship is good in many ways, except that he seems to have lost libido.” Her husband became embarrassed when she tried to discuss sex with her husband. His avoidance and the injuries she suffered severely affected their relationship. And one of the commonest complaints among couples seeking counseling is sexual disharmony or “sexual expectation difference” - a topic that has annoyed millions of men and women. Lack of sexual interest does not necessarily mean the end of marriage. However, “expectations of difference” is a sign that reminds couples that your relationship has become indifferent and is the time to adjust. the following