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孩子成绩好、表现好,我们要“奖励”孩子,上一期《家长学堂》谈了“奖励”的话题。可孩子犯了错,我们该怎么办呢?这一期我们来谈谈如何“批评”。在孩子犯错时,我们要有客观、冷静的态度,要本着帮助、教育孩子的目的,不要光顾着自己的面子,就任着自己的性子把气撒在孩子身上。孩子毕竟是一个发展中的人,免不了要犯错,关键是我们大人如何对待犯错的孩子。在批评孩子时,我们要更多地从孩子的角度想一想,不要用成人的标准去要求孩子,这么一想,我们的心就会平静许多。“批评”不是心罚,更不是体罚。批评的方式有许多种,不一定非要用严厉的方式孩子才会接受,很多时候,一个暗示的眼神,一种平等协商的态度,更加能够触动孩子的内心,让我们部学学批评孩子的智慧和艺术吧。
Good grades, good performance, we want to “reward” children, the last “Parents School” talked about the “reward” topic. What can we do if a child makes a mistake? In this issue we will talk about how to “criticize.” When a child makes a mistake, we must have an objective and calm attitude. We must help and educate our children not to look after their own faces and to let their own temper be used on the child. After all, a child is a developing person, inevitably make mistakes, the key is how we adults treat errant children. In criticizing our children, we should think more of ourselves from the viewpoint of our children. Do not ask our children to use adult standards. At this moment, our hearts will be much calmer. “Criticism” is not mental punishment, not corporal punishment. There are many ways to criticize, not necessarily to accept the child in a harsh manner, many times, an implied look, an attitude of equal consultation, more able to touch the child's heart, let us learn to criticize the school Wisdom and art.