经常听到父母们抱怨：孩子怎么越大越不听话。其实，父母这是冤枉了孩子。父母说的话孩子都在听，而且孩子是非常听话的。父母认为孩子不听话，也许是因为父母自己说的话有了问题。父母的话说得不符合科学，比如希望孩子一天到晚都对书本如醉如痴；比如希望孩子对别人很圆滑但 Often I hear parents complain that the bigger the child, the more disobedient he is. In fact, parents are wronged children. Children are listening to what their parents say, and children are very obedient. Parents think children disobedient, perhaps because parents have problems with their own words. Parents’ words are out of line with science, such as wanting children to be enthralled with the book all day long; for example, they want their children to be sleek to others