孩子的可塑性大,所以家庭教育的特点是潜移默化。当孩子犯了错误时,若使用了不当的教育方式,就会招致不良后果,因此下面五个“不”是必须注意的。一、不能伤害孩子的自尊心。自尊心是影响孩子健康成长的重要心理因素,尊重孩子不仅能促进孩子自信心、自尊心的发展,而且能培养孩子的创新精神及行为控制能力。有些父母从未意识到孩子也是有自尊心的,一味求全责备或轻视孩子的点滴进步,犯错误时更是不讲究方式,使用像刀子一样的蔑视语言向孩子的心上戳,不经意中伤害了孩子的自尊心。自尊心受到损害的孩子,在发展中必然会产生心理障碍,如自卑感和对抗心理等。二、不为孩子护短。有不少父母只爱听对孩子的表扬和赞 Children plasticity, so the characteristics of family education is subtle. When a child makes a mistake, if improper education is used, it will lead to adverse consequences. Therefore, the following five “noes” must be paid attention to. First, can not hurt the child’s self-esteem. Self-esteem is an important psychological factor that affects the healthy growth of children. Respecting children can not only promote the self-confidence and self-esteem of children, but also cultivate children’s innovative spirit and behavior control ability. Some parents never realize that children also have self-esteem, blindly blame or despise their children for improvement. When they make mistakes, they do not pay attention to the way they use the knife-like contempt language to poke their children’s hearts and inadvertently hurt their children Self-esteem. Impaired children with self-esteem, in the development of the inevitable psychological disorders, such as inferiority and confrontation and so on. Second, not for the protection of children short. Many parents only love to praise and praise their children