我们的看见,对于孩子是如此重要,它代表了认同,意味着接纳,等同于爱。儿子喜欢玩坦克游戏,他每次玩完,总会兴高采烈地再给我们讲一遍。我对这种游戏一无所知,也不感兴趣,听他讲时,我只敷衍地“哦,啊”一番。但丈夫听得很认真,他每次都是看着孩子,表现出很大的兴趣,还不时附和儿子说:“××坦克确实厉害!”一次,他俩聊完了坦克,看来儿子心满意足,他忽然抱住丈夫,说“:我爱你,爸爸。”那一刻,一旁的我仿佛感到一股亲密、美好的情感在他们之间欢畅 What we see, so important to our children, stands for identity, meaning acceptance, equal to love. My son likes to play tank games, and every time he finishes playing, he will always talk to us happily again. I know nothing about this game, nor are I interested, listen to him, I only perfunctory “Oh, ah ” some. However, the husband listened very seriously, he always looked at the child, showing great interest, but also from time to time and his son said: “× × tanks really powerful!” Once they talked about the tank, it seems son Satisfied, he suddenly hugged her husband, saying “: I love you, dad. ” At that moment, I seemed to feel the side of the intimacy, good feelings between them joyous