有时候,人所需要的是真正的绝望。真正的绝望让人心平气和。你意识到你不能依靠别人得到快乐、充实、救赎。前两天有个网友给我写信,问我如何克服寂寞。她跟我刚来美国时一样,英文不够好,朋友少,一个人等着天亮,一个人等着天黑。“每天学校、家、图书馆、健身房,几点一线”。我说我没什么好招儿,因为我从来就没有克服过这个问题。这些年来我学会的,就是适应它。正如有人所言:“适应孤独,就像适应一种残疾。”我觉得,快乐是可遇不可求的,但是充实是可求而不可遇的。我的快乐很少,当然我也不痛苦。主要是生活稀薄,事件密度非常低。我典型的一天:一个人,书,电 Sometimes people need real despair. Real despair makes people feel calm. You realize that you can not be happy, fulfilled, and redeemed by others. Two days ago a netizen wrote to me and asked me how to overcome loneliness. She was just like when I first came to the United States, she was not good enough in English, had few friends, one waited for the dawn and one waited for the darkness. “Every day school, home, library, gym, a few lines ”. I say I have nothing good to do, because I have never overcome this problem. What I learned over the years is to adapt to it. As one has said: “Adaptation to loneliness, just like to adapt to a disability. ” I think, happiness is exalted, but enrichment is desirable and unforgettable. I am very happy, of course, I am not painful. Mainly life thin, event density is very low. My typical day: a person, book, electricity