心理学研究表明，人与人交往是一个互动过程．就是说，自我开放的区域越大，别人的良性反馈也就越多，因此说人际关系和谐程度与让人了解自己的程度成正比．而我们通常总是用“君子”、“小人”去衡量别人，却忘记了这一尺度同样也适合自己，生活中就严以待人、宽以律己，弄得 Psychological research shows that human interaction is an interactive process. In other words, the greater the area of ​​self-reliance, the more benign feedback from others, so the degree of interpersonal harmony is proportional to the extent to which one understands oneself. We usually use “gentleman” and “villain” to measure others, but we forget that this standard is also suitable for ourselves. In life, we treat people with leniency and self-restraint