人生难免会遭遇各种各样的困顿、挫折和不幸,有些挫折和不幸在时光的流逝中会被冲淡、消失,不留任何记忆,然而像性暴力、性侵犯这样的不幸遭遇却很难让人轻易忘掉,它所造成的伤害常常会使受害者精神崩溃或人格变型。在处理这种因幼年遭性侵犯导致的精神失常个案时,咨询者要向当事人投入最真诚的理解和同情,咨询的重点应放在对“罪”的理解和宽恕能力的培养上。我坚信,当一个人的不幸和痛苦被别人真正理解之后,这个人的不幸和痛苦就等于化解了一半。——作者题记 Life will inevitably encounter a great deal of hardship, frustration and misfortune. Some of the setbacks and misfortunes will be diluted and disappeared in the passage of time, leaving no memory. However, unfortunate experiences such as sexual violence and sexual assault are hard to come by. People easily forget that the harm they cause can often cause the victim to suffer mental breakdown or personality traits. In dealing with mental disorders caused by childhood sexual assault, the counselors should devote the most sincere comprehension and sympathy to the clients. The counseling should focus on the understanding of “sin” and the cultivation of forgiveness. I firmly believe that when a person’s misfortune and suffering are really understood by others, the misfortune and suffering of this person is equal to dissolve in half. - Author inscription