美国教育心理学家海姆·呈诺特说,小孩子开口要东西,做父母的想说“不”,又怕伤了孩子的自尊,怎么办?可以有4个阶段的“不”的说法一、首先,承认孩子的愿望。比如说:“你今天晚上想看电影?”二、明确表示这愿望能许可的范围。比如说:“我们家有个规矩,上学的晚上不能看电影,记得吗?”三、最好还表示这个愿望能够有条件地实现:“星期五晚上可以了。”四、给孩子表达失望或生气的机会,以求心理平衡。比如说:“我知道你讨厌这个规矩,等你长大了,我们一起来改变这个规矩好吗?对你来说,最好的是每晚都可比看电影、是这样吗?”这个方法,就是部分地承认对方说法正确,可使对 American educational psychologist Heinuo Knott said that the children open something, parents want to say “no”, afraid of hurting the child’s self-esteem, how to do? There can be four stages of “no” argument First, first, recognize the child’s wishes. For example, “Do you want to watch a movie tonight?” Second, it clearly states the scope of this wish. For example: “Our family has a rule, can not watch the movie at night, go to school, remember?” Best said that this wish can be fulfilled conditionally: “Friday night can be.” Fourth, to express disappointment or angry children The chance, in order to psychological balance. For example: “I know you hate this rule, wait for you to grow up, we work together to change the rules alright? For you, the best night movie, is it?” This method, Partially recognize each other is correct, can make right