孩子的症状往往是家庭问题、夫妻问题的投射,他们的问题出现只是为了整个家庭的根源问题的解决。我在咨询室第一次见到林芳菲(化名)的时候,很惊讶于这个“叛逆”孩子的礼貌。她是一个初三年级的女生,长着大大的眼睛,漂亮的五官,一条整齐利落的马尾辫,衣着干净整洁,谈吐也很正常,一进门来就稍稍躬身对我说了声“老师好”。这怎么也无法让人相信她是一个休学半年的孩子。但是,当芳菲的妈妈敲门进来的时候,芳菲的脸色突变,她甚至用有些厌恶的目光看着母亲,紧紧闭着嘴,一言不发起来。 Children’s symptoms are often family problems, the projection of husband and wife problems, their problems appear only for the solution of the root causes of the entire family. When I first met Lin Fangfei (alias) in the consultation room, I was very surprised at the courtesy of this “rebellious” child. She is a girl of the third grade, with big eyes, beautiful features, a tidy neat ponytail, clean and tidy clothes, and normal conversation. As soon as she came in, she said something to me. “Teacher it is good”. How can this also make people believe she is a child suspended for six months. However, when Fangfei’s mom knocked on the door, Fangfei’s face suddenly changed. She even looked at her mother in some disgusting eyes. She closed her mouth without saying anything.