需要特别提醒的是,当孩子能根据情境判断、自己做出等待的决定,并通过自己的方法来度过这段等待期,而不是成人要求他这样做时,孩子延迟满足的能力才能得到真正的发展。如果孩子内在并没有延迟满足的愿望,而是成人勉强孩子去做,那不但很难真正培养起孩子延迟满足的能力,还会让他时常有“愿望被剥夺”之感。 It is important to note that the ability of a child to delay being satisfied can only be achieved when he or she can decide on the basis of the situation, make a decision on his own, and spend the waiting period in his own way instead of the adult asking him to do so development of. If the child’s inner child does not delay the fulfillment of the desire, but adults barely do it, it is not only difficult to really develop the child’s ability to delay the satisfaction, but also make him often “desire to be deprived of ” feeling.