常听到许多父母抱怨,孩子稍大一点以后,就不和他们说心里话,不对他们陈述自己的看法,也不把在外边或学校里的见闻告诉他们了。出现这种情况的原因之一,就是在过去某些时候,父母在训诫孩子时,常常等不及孩子申辩,就粗暴地打断了他的话:“你还嘴硬!”“你竟敢用这种态度跟妈妈讲话!”“明知道自己错了,你还敢狡辩!”时间长了,孩子委屈沮丧的心情便产生了:反正自己不被理解、不被信任、不被尊重,干脆就不听父母讲话,也不对父母说过多的话,以免话多了又招来一顿无端的教导或责骂。 Many parents often hear complaints that when their children are slightly older, they do not say good words to them, do not tell them what they are saying or tell their stories outside or at school. One of the reasons for this is that at some time in the past, parents often waited for their children when they were admonishing their children, and rudely interrupted him: “You’re still stiff!” With this attitude to talk to my mother! “” I know I was wrong, you dare to quibble! “” A long time, the child grieved frustrated mood has arisen: Anyway, I do not understand, not be trusted, not being Respect, simply do not listen to their parents, nor say too much to their parents, in order to avoid more and recruit unwarranted teaching or scolding.