记得9年前孩子还躺在小摇床里的时候,我就曾看着孩子的小脸深情地遐想:要是孩子能跟我们说说话,谈谈心,那该是一种怎样的天伦之乐啊!一转眼,孩子到了10岁,已经是3年级的小学生了!回头想想,竟没有几次真正坐下来与孩子一起进行很“平等”的交流。特别是在孩子上学以后,每当跟孩子在一起,不是对他提要求,就是大声地批评他。与孩子平和相处的心思不知到哪里去了。有时还会抱怨说:“我恨不得把心都掏出来了,可你怎么就一点都不理解呢?”想起来,总觉得有些别扭。有了这样的反省经验以后,我决定改变一下教育孩子的策略,把“要求”变成“交谈”。先从孩子“作业拖拉”的习惯开始。孩子刚上学的时候,放了学,总是想到先把作业做好,然后再去玩耍。可渐渐 I remember 9 years ago when the child was still lying in a small shaker, I had looked at the child’s face relentlessly reverie: If the child can talk to us, talk about the heart, it is what kind of grandchildren ah At a glance, the child reached the age of 10, is already a grade 3 primary school students! Looking back and thinking, actually few times to sit down and their children with very “equal ” exchange. Especially after the children go to school, whenever they are with their children, they either ask him or criticize him loudly. Peace of mind and children do not know where to go. Sometimes complain: “I can not wait to pull my heart out, but why do not you understand it at all?” “I always feel a bit uncomfortable. With such introspection, I decided to change my strategy of educating children to turn ”request “ into ”conversation ". Start with your kids’ habit of dragging homework. Children just go to school, let go of the school, always think of the first homework, and then go play. Can gradually