问:我的孩子过去很听话,但上了两年中学之后,现在越来越难管了,总是有意疏远我们,还总和我们对着干,动不动就发脾气、顶嘴。我们感到焦急和担心,但又不知怎么办,希望得到你的指导。答:你们和孩子的关系较僵确实需要设法缓解。首先应了解孩子这些表现是生理和心理发展过程中的正常现象,不必责备孩子其次要理解孩子,积极与孩子沟通,给孩子以适当的帮助和引导。 Q: My child used to be obedient. However, after two years of high school, it is getting harder and harder now. I am always trying to alienate us. At the same time, we always work hard and lose my temper. We feel anxious and worried, but do not know what to do, I hope to get your guidance. A: The relationship between you and your child is more rigid and needs to be mitigated. First of all should understand that these children are the performance of the physical and psychological development process of the normal phenomenon, do not blame the child secondary understanding of children, and actively communicate with their children, giving their children with appropriate help and guidance.