最近,江苏一位读者魏丽丽来信说:“我和丈夫关系一向很好,结婚以来,相敬如宾。没有发生过大的争吵。互相都比较宽容。但最近我对丈夫吸烟的习惯,越来越不能容忍,提醒过他多次,他毫不在乎。前些日子,我大动肝火,没想到他毫不相让。我们俩已经连续一个多月不说话了,我很苦恼。”魏丽丽女士,你好。吸烟确实不是一个好习惯,形容吸烟是二十一世纪的“鼠疫”,一点也不过分,它不仅害自己也殃及无辜。但是,你劝诫老公的方法不太对头。一个人的习惯一但形成,想在一天之内戒掉,可能性很小,凡事要有一个过程。你用生硬的态度、过激的办法改变丈夫的习惯,我看不仅不会奏效,反而还会影响夫妻之间的感情,“夫妻结合是缘分,千年难遇这一回”,望你俩珍惜。俗话说,“锅勺哪有不碰锅沿的”,夫妻俩在同一空间共度岁月,难免有冲冲撞撞,难免有争争吵吵。为了帮助你使丈夫戒烟,我们讨论这一期的题目是: Recently, a reporter from Weili, a reader in Jiangsu, wrote: “My husband and I have always had a good relationship and have enjoyed mutual respect since we got married. There have been no major quarrels and we are more tolerant of each other. But recently, my habit of smoking is increasingly intolerable to her husband. , Reminded him many times, he did not care. A few days ago, I am greatly agitated, did not think he did not give in. We both have not spoken for more than a month, I am distressed. ”Ms. Wei Lili, hello. Smoking is not really a good habit. To describe smoking as a “plague” in the 21st century can not be overestimated. It not only harms itself but also affects innocent people. However, your advice to her husband’s approach is not right. Once a person’s habits but formed, want to quit within a day, the possibility of small, everything should have a process. You use blunt attitude, radical way to change her husband’s habits, I think not only will not work, but will also affect the feelings between husband and wife, “couple is the fate of marriage, the millennium encounter this time,” hope you both cherish. As the saying goes, “how can the pot spoon do not touch the pot?” The couple spent time together in the same space, which inevitably collided with others. To help you quit your husband, we discuss the topic of this issue: