刚谈恋爱时,我们往往会像“打了鸡血”一样,拼上精力去让对方爱上自己,所以那时候表现出的“努力”常会随着两个人关系的稳定而逐渐软下来。这时候,不是Ta的爱减弱了,而是你们的默契增加了,Ta不必再强撑着装有精神给你看了——疲惫常常是一个人最安全时所表达出来的常态,再耀眼的人,也需要暗淡来休憩。如果Ta对你黯淡,说明Ta真的信任你,不要再要求Ta也像对外界时一样“强撑精力”地对你。 When we just fall in love, we tend to struggle with each other as much as we love ourselves, so the ’hard work’ that time shows off often as the relationship between two people gradually stabilizes Soft down. At this time, Ta is not the love weakened, but your tacit understanding has increased, Ta no longer have to hold the spirit to show you - fatigue is often the most safe when a person expressed the normal, bright people , Also need dark to rest. If Ta dims you, that Ta really trust you, do not ask Ta is also the same as when outside the “strong energy” to you.