小丁按:我是通过一个朋友与她取得联系的,初次见到她时我感到非常意外——男人们究竟都干什么去了,居然还让这样的女人单身。可是很快我就笑起自己来,因为我发现,一个老套的思维定式正在我脑袋里作怪。以下是根据我们的谈话整理出来的她很久以来的心里话,也许你可以由此认识到她是怎样一个人。 （雪梅 女　30岁 某高校教师） 我家姐妹三人,没有男孩,我是最小的一个。爸妈是把我当男孩养的,但这几乎对我没什么影响,从小我身上的女孩气就十足,或者说充满了阴柔气吧。小的时候十分乖巧——现在其实也是——爱哭鼻子,爸妈、姐姐们都十分疼爱我。我的人生道路很顺利,可以说没有经历什么坎坷和抉择就走过来了,也许是我这个人没心没肺吧,我妈妈常这样评价我。 Xiao Ding Press: I get in touch with her through a friend, I was very surprised when I saw her for the first time - what the men are doing, actually let such a woman single. But soon I laughed at myself, because I found that a stereotyped thinking is in my head. Here’s what she has been saying for a long time based on our conversation, and maybe you can realize how kind she is. (Xuemei female 30-year-old college teacher) my sister three, no boy, I am the youngest one. My parents raised me as a boy, but it did little to me. From an early age, my girl was full of gas or full of femininity. When a child is very clever - and now is actually - crying nose, parents, sisters who are very loving me. My life is a smooth road, it can be said without going through any ups and downs and the choice came over, maybe I am heartless, my mother often comment on me.