台州读者小杨问:为避免说教和唠叨,我喜欢和儿子约法三章,但往往是“约法”容易,做到难。怎样才能让孩子遵守约定呢?主持我们常说的约法三章,就是行为学家提出的“行为契约”,即约定和承诺,有效的行为契约可以引发孩子表现出良好的行为,促使孩子改变不良行为。生活中,许多父母爱用约法三章来管理孩子,实际效果如何?我们来分享父母们的经验。 Xiao Yang, Taizhou Reader Q: In order to avoid preaching and nagging, I like to live with my son Jofa Chapter 3, but often it is easy to make the Covenant difficult. How can we let our children abide by the rules? To preside over the three chapters of the law, which we often say, is the behavior contract proposed by behaviorists, that is, the contract of conduct and promise. The effective behavior contract can trigger the child to behave well and make the child change the bad behavior. In life, many parents love to use the three chapters to manage their children, the actual effect? ​​We have to share the experience of parents.