叛逆,如今在孩子们看来是个很时髦的词儿,若是没胆量做点儿出格的事儿,往往被同龄人看不起,被同伴称为“小绵羊”。但做父母的若是摊上一个“小反叛”可真为难:不管吧,看不过去;管吧,还真棘手,管教不好还可能离家出走、违法犯罪,惹出更多麻烦。同时父母又会时时刻刻担惊受怕:这小祖宗,不知什么时候又干出荒唐事,不是被老师请家长,就是被邻居们告状。在近年家教咨询中,与孩子所谓“逆反心理”有关的问题,占50%以上。从大量个案来分析,孩子的反叛其实多与家教观念的误区有关。通过下面的个案,希望父母们得到某些启发。 Rebellious, now appears to children is a very fashionable word, if there is no courage to do something outrageous, often despised by their peers, by his companions called “Little Sheep ”. However, it is really hard for parents to share a “small rebel”. No matter what it is, it can not be justified. It is really tricky. It may be that the discipline is not good, it may run away from home, commit crimes and cause more troubles. At the same time, parents will be scared all the time: this little ancestor, I do not know when to do absurd things, not by the teacher please parents, is to be sued by the neighbors. In tutoring and counseling in recent years, the problems related to children’s so-called “rebellious mentality” account for over 50%. From a large number of cases to analyze, the children’s rebellion is actually more related to the misunderstanding of the concept of tutoring. Through the following case, I hope parents get some inspiration.