著名心理和家庭治疗师维吉尼亚·萨提亚用了一个非常形象的隐喻来形容一个人的自我:这就像一座漂浮在水面上的巨大冰山,能够被外界看到的行为表现或应对方式,只是露在水面上的很小一部分,大约只有八分之一,另外的八分之七藏在海面下。揭开冰山下的秘密,我们会看到生命中的渴望、期待,看到学生真正的那个自我。老师与学生在此基础上的沟通,才能触及学生内心最柔软的部分;在此基础上的教育,才能四两拨千金,润物细无声。 Virginia Satius, a well-known psychotherapist and family therapist, uses a very figurative metaphor to describe a person’s ego: it’s like a huge iceberg floating on the water that can be seen or dealt with outside Way, only a small part of the surface exposed, only about one-eighth, the other eight-eighths hidden under the sea. Uncover the secrets under the iceberg, we will see the thirst in life, looking forward to see the true self of students. Teachers and students can communicate with each other on this basis to reach the softest part of the student’s heart. On the basis of this, education can only be used in every possible way and animals can be silenced.