做父母应“有所为有所不为”。因为，孩子迟早要独立，孩子与父母的关系是“分离之爱”；如果父母对孩子包办代替太多，管得太多，孩子就会永远也长不大。下面这个心理咨询的实例是发人深思的。阿建是一名高中生，今年就升入高三了。可是，阿建在学习上不够努力，高二时还有一 Parents should “do something for nothing.” Because, sooner or later, the children need to be independent, the relationship between children and parents is “love of separation.” If the parents do not overfit children and manage too much, the children will never grow up. The following example of psychological counseling is thought-provoking. A-jian is a high school student who has moved into third year this year. However, Ajinai did not work hard enough in his studies and he still had one in his sophomore year